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Building a positive relationship with money: part two

Part Two: Earning money

In my previous post I talked about how to spend money in a way that it aligns with your values and makes the biggest impact. Now, let’s talk about how we earn money in ways that cultivate a positive relationship.

1. Align your work with your values

The first step to aligning your work with your values is articulating your values. I created this worksheet to help you with that. The second step is to know your purpose. What is your truest, highest purpose on this planet? What is the one thing that only you can accomplish towards making this world better? This comes from spiritual growth and connection.

Aligning our work with our values is often easier said than done, I’ll be honest. Sometimes it only requires a slight shift in our focus – perhaps moving to a different company with the same job, or even transferring to a different department or project. But sometimes it requires something radical. Like quitting your job and reinventing yourself. 

I touched on how I started over in part one of this blog. It’s not to say that the work I was doing was bad. But it wasn’t in alignment with my highest purpose. And the more connection I developed with my spiritual self through meditation and receiving my Life Activation, the harder it became to work on something that wasn’t my purpose.

At a minimum, to stay in a healthy mind, you want to be in a job that doesn’t conflict with your values. If you’re a passionate advocate for sustainability, working at a petroleum company is very likely to make you miserable. When we’re living against our values, it’s almost impossible to find joy in that. Our joy comes from alignment with our higher self – the part of us who knows our unique mission on this planet to make it better. We’re the only ones who can fulfill that. The further away we get from that, the less joyful we are.

2. Make an intentional choice about freedom vs. stability

When trying to align your work with your values, an important question may come up: can I do this by working for someone else? And if so, what opportunities are at the intersection of my skillset and my values? It is definitely possible to align your work with your values by working for another company. It means finding a company whose products or services and how they deliver those things aligns with your values. If you value respect for all humanity, it means finding a company that treats its customers and employees with great respect. If you value protecting the environment, it means working for a company that is conscientious about its environmental impact and consciously making efforts to be more sustainable. 

However, sometimes it may mean starting your own business. And I don’t say this lightly. Starting your own business is extraordinarily difficult and risky. I know from experience of starting two of my own. But if your mission is big and bold and ventures into the unknown, sometimes the constraints of an employer won’t support making that happen.

In the end, I believe we have to make a choice between two things: the stability that working for someone else provides us with a steady paycheck, and perhaps benefits. And the freedom that owning our own company provides us to set the direction, create something new, and make the choices that align with our vision and values. Either way, let your choice be intentional. Don’t be a victim who complains about how awful their job is when you staying there is a choice. Take power over your situation and change it if necessary. 

3. Challenge the “I’m not worth it” mindset

In service businesses, we have to work hard to assess our value and price it fairly for both ourselves and our clients. In addition to my metaphysical healing practice, I have a consulting business. In both these types of businesses, there can be pressure to undervalue the work I do – price it lower than its true value and give deep discounts that are unwarranted. There can be a struggle between acquiring clients who are willing to pay what you’re worth and getting any client who might pay the bills. I’ve struggled with this myself. 

In particular, with energy healing there’s a martyr complex where some healers and clients believe they should work very cheaply, or even for free. But in fact, the fair and ethical way of working with people is to create an equal exchange of energy (currency or trade). The healer can only do their best work if they have a quality of life that allows them to support and nourish themselves so they can continue to help others. If one person is taking advantage of the other, what karma accumulates from that exchange? And how much is the receiver actually invested in their own healing?

What I’ve learned is that the type of client who is willing to pay what you’re worth is also the type of client you really want. These are the people who really want your service – not just someone who makes a sport of trying to get a good deal. They are also the type of people you want referring you to other clients. I have a friend who went out on her own. The first client she got, she gave a deep discount to thinking she just needed that first client to get going. The problem was, that first client starting sending referrals her way. And guess what she said? “You won’t believe how cheap she is – she only charges $X per hour!” Those are NOT the type of referrals you want. You want referrals that rave about your work based on its merits. 

When working for someone else, this can apply as well. You might think it’s too pushy to ask for the salary you deserve when negotiating an offer, or too pushy to ask for a raise you really deserve. But again, what a company is willing to pay you reflects how much they value you and your skills. If you are asking for a completely fair, market rate salary and a company won’t give it to you after you’ve made a compelling case, then leave, or don’t start in the first place. 

Worksheet: build a positive relationship with your earning

I created this worksheet to help you build a more positive relationship with money. It’s in addition to the worksheet in Part 1 of this article. I hope these tools give you the opportunity to reflect on the three principles we’ve discussed and make a few changes.

Wishing you prosperity and abundance. 

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